Privacy & safety
Private by design. Safety before advice.
Relationship conflict can involve deeply personal information. Our current free tools are designed to keep answers in your browser, explain their limits, and stop ordinary communication advice when safety concerns appear.
Four design principles
Trust starts with what a tool does not ask you to give up.
The free tools are educational decision aids. Privacy and safety are part of the product logic, not a paragraph added at the end.
Minimum information
The free tools use structured answers and do not ask for names, account numbers, message screenshots, addresses or a detailed relationship narrative.
Local processing
In the current versions, scoring and result generation happen in the browser rather than through an account or relationship-profile database.
Safety branching
Fear, violence, coercive control and financial restriction are separated from ordinary disagreement. The tool does not ask both people to compromise in an unsafe situation.
Transparent limits
A result reflects one person’s answers at one moment. It cannot verify a partner’s motives, determine who is right or predict a relationship outcome.
How answer handling works
Follow the answer, not the marketing promise.
Select each stage to see what happens before, during and after a free tool session.
Start without creating a relationship profile.
The current free tools do not require a name, email address, password or partner invitation. You can read the safety information before deciding whether to continue.
The safety boundary
Not every relationship problem is an ordinary communication problem.
A request to “talk better” can be unsafe when one person is afraid, controlled, threatened or denied access to basic resources. The tools therefore separate ordinary conflict from situations that may require safety planning or outside support.
This page cannot determine your level of danger. The selector illustrates why the response changes when safety conditions change.
Ordinary conflict tools may fit—with limits.
A free tool may help you slow the interaction, clarify a responsibility pattern or define one money rule. It still reflects only your perspective and cannot guarantee how the other person will respond.
Explore the free toolsWhat is and is not collected
A useful tool does not need every detail of your life.
Current free tools may use
- Structured choices about a recent conflict or household pattern
- General conflict topics, such as money, parenting or shared responsibilities
- Your own perception of activation, readiness, fairness or trust
- Optional “not sure” answers when you cannot know another person’s state
They do not need
- Legal names, home addresses or employer information
- Bank credentials, card numbers, passwords or Social Security numbers
- Uploaded private messages, photographs or recordings
- A diagnosis, partner profile or permanent relationship score
Device privacy matters
“Not uploaded” does not mean “invisible on your device.”
The page may still appear in browser history, recently opened tabs, synced devices or screen previews. Quick Exit can clear the active tool state and move to a neutral page, but it cannot erase every trace created by your browser or device.
When privacy is a concern, consider using a safer device, private browsing mode and a connection the other person cannot monitor.
Choose a free tool
Use the smallest tool that fits the situation.
Each tool focuses on one practical decision rather than trying to judge the whole relationship.
After-Conflict Repair Check
Consider whether to regulate, create a reliable return, prepare for repair or invite a short conversation.
Invisible Load & Fairness Map
See who notices, plans, owns, completes and follows through on a household responsibility.
Money Conflict Meaning Map
Separate security, autonomy, fairness, transparency, trust and decision-process tensions.