National Domestic Violence Hotline
Confidential support for people affected by relationship abuse, including safety planning, understanding options and finding local providers.
Available nationwide in the United States.U.S. safety resources
Safety comes before relationship advice.
Fear, threats, forced contact, financial restriction, stalking and sexual coercion are not ordinary communication problems. You do not need to prove that your experience is “serious enough” before seeking confidential support.
No account required
No situation saved
Official U.S. resources
Safety firstChoice, privacy and support before shared conversation
Immediate danger requires emergency support
Fear or control changes what advice is safe
A trained advocate can help explore options
If you or someone else may be in immediate danger, call 911 or your local emergency service.
This website is not monitored and cannot provide emergency response.
Start with what is happening now
Choose the situation that feels closest.
You do not need a diagnosis or legal label. This selector does not save your choice and does not determine whether abuse has occurred.
Immediate safety
Move toward emergency support, not a relationship conversation.
If violence, a weapon, forced confinement, threats or an escalating emergency may be present, prioritize leaving the immediate area when possible and contacting emergency help from a safer device or location.
Internet activity may be monitored. Opening an external resource may also appear in browser history.
Official U.S. resources
Choose support that matches the situation.
These organizations are independent from this website. Their official help pages provide the most current call, text, chat and local-service options.
love is respect
Confidential relationship support for teens, young adults and people concerned about dating abuse or unhealthy relationship behavior.
Support is also available to concerned friends and loved ones.RAINN
Confidential, trauma-informed support and referrals for survivors of sexual assault or sexual coercion and for their loved ones.
Official options may include phone, chat, text and local referrals.SPARC stalking resources
Education, safety-planning materials, documentation tools and links to victim-service providers for stalking and repeated unwanted contact.
SPARC does not directly provide crisis services.VictimConnect Resource Center
Confidential referrals for victims of crime, including local advocacy, legal services, financial support and other community resources.
Useful when you are unsure which local service fits.988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline
For suicidal crisis or emotional distress of any kind in the United States and its territories. Call or text 988, or use official online chat.
Call or text 988 for crisis counseling and referrals.When ordinary conflict advice may not fit
The issue is not only “communication” when choice is unsafe.
A relationship can include both ordinary disagreements and abusive behavior. The presence of fear, coercion or restriction changes what advice is appropriate.
You do not need every sign on this page before speaking with a confidential advocate.
You are afraid of what may happen if you disagree.You change your behavior to avoid threats, punishment, retaliation or escalation.
Your movement, work, money or communication is restricted.Access to transportation, accounts, identification, employment, health care or supportive people is controlled.
Private devices or accounts are monitored.Passwords, location, messages or browser activity are demanded, tracked or used to intimidate you.
Sexual contact is pressured, forced or treated as an obligation.Consent must be voluntary and can be withdrawn, including within marriage or a long-term relationship.
Unwanted contact continues after you ask it to stop.Repeated calls, messages, appearances, surveillance or threats may require specialized stalking support.
Threats of self-harm are used to control your choices.A partner’s crisis deserves professional support, but you do not have to surrender your safety or boundaries to manage it alone.
Device and browsing safety
Use a safer device when monitoring is possible.
Quick Exit can remove the current page state and open a neutral website, but it cannot erase browser history, router logs, synced activity, screenshots or monitoring software.
Official domestic violence resources also warn that internet use can be monitored and may be impossible to erase completely.
1Use a device and account the other person cannot access when possible.
2Consider private browsing, while remembering it does not hide activity from every system.
3Avoid downloading or printing safety material if discovery could increase risk.
4Ask an advocate about technology safety and a personalized safety plan.
What reaching out can look like
You can ask questions without committing to one decision.
A trained advocate may help you think through choices. They do not need you to have a complete plan before you contact them.
Describe only what feels safe
You can begin with a question, one behavior or a general concern. You do not have to tell your entire story at once.
Explore options
Support may include safety planning, emotional support, local referrals, shelter information or help understanding available services.
Keep decision-making with you
Ask the service how confidentiality and any reporting obligations work. Policies can vary, but you can still ask questions about your options before sharing more detail.
Resource verification
This directory was reviewed against official U.S. organization pages on July 30, 2026. Services, hours and contact methods can change; use each organization’s official help page for current options.